My husband and I have a 14 year old daughter who is getting into trouble. By that I mean, she’s around too many boys. I don’t know if she’s doing anything with them that she shouldn’t be. I let her go to friends houses on the weekends and I thought I trusted her, but sometimes I’m suspicious when she gets back. Mother’s intuition? She looks like she’s hiding something. She sometimes won’t look me in the eye and doesn’t talk about her visit. I called over to her friends’ houses a few times to check on her and a few times no one answered the phone. I want her to trust me in case something ever serious happens, so I don’t want to snoop or be too over protective. My husband doesn’t see anything wrong and thinks she’s just being a teenager. I just have a sinking feeling that something isn’t right.
I agree that something isn't right. You have instincts for a reason and you should trust them. I would keep a closer eye on your teenage daughter. Think back to when you or your siblings were teenagers. You wanted to experiment and experience new things. She is likely doing some experimenting that you wouldn't want her to do. If she has a computer you should have access to her activity. If you don’t already have regular conversations and encourage her to be open without shaming her, do so. You might want to have her call in to report in on what she’s doing when she goes to friends’ houses. Also meet her friends. As for her being around a lot of boys, I hope she isn't allowed to go over to boys houses. After school she should be coming straight home and you should drive her to her activities if you can. Or have a trusted friend’s parent do it. The teenage years can be so delicate and we want teenage children to know what good decision making is. They need guidance in order to do so. It’s a delicate balance between being protective and not being overly protective. Best wishes!
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